The Lowdown On Online Sex

By Vanessa Burton

It seems that we can finally enjoy safe sex without the worries of STDs, unwanted pregnancies or a guilty conscience. Online sex is hot on the world's heels and becoming more and more popular with men and women ... but what's the big deal about chat rooms and sexual innuendo?

Many people have begun using mics and cameras to enjoy a more visual and audible experience, but for the most part, people are sticking to private chat rooms for their sexual tactics.

Keep reading to find out who's engaging in online sex, why women enjoy it so much and how the description of sexual escapades can have a far deeper effect than actual sex.

who's having it?

There was a time when the majority of people on the Net were men, but nowadays, many women have been enjoying the surf experience themselves. But who's really connecting with whom for these sexual experiences?


There's nothing more exciting than meeting someone you've never encountered and then sharing an unforgettable sexual experience with them. Many women get hooked on such experiences and live out fantasies over the Net that they would never dare attempt in their real lives.


Many people on the Net searching for others to get nasty with usually have a significant other and are just messing around mentally with other people who are likely attached as well. Whether or not it's cheating is up for (a heated) debate.


If couples are engaged in a long-distance relationship or if one member is called away for business, online sex is a great way to keep the spark going. A lot of couples enjoy the element of naughtiness involved with computer sex and some even feel more at liberty to reveal what they're thinking behind the guise of a computer screen.

why do women love it?

Of the many women I've talked to, most revealed that they've tried and enjoyed it, but didn't love it so much that they began looking forward to getting home only to hook up to the computer to enjoy some online sex. They'd prefer the real thing without question.

But there are other women who do turn online sex into a full-on event. They dress up in lingerie, pour themselves a glass of wine and get the party started.

It's safe

The fact that no one really has to know who she is, where she is, what she's about, or anything else provides a sense of relief. She can take it as far as she wants and when she's done, she can log off -- no strings attached. It's that simple.

She lives out a thrill

She can behave completely out of character and be a vicious dominatrix or a submissive cutie depending on what she's about. And because the man on the other end has no idea what she's really like, he'll go with the flow and ask no questions about her behavior.

It's her secret

This is her thing. No one else has to know what she does with her own time or whom she does it with. By making love to people over the Net, she maintains her social reputation and enjoys herself.

Brain candy

If she's able to click with a man who can use his vocabulary to drench her panties, her mental picture of what's going on between them will serve up a very satisfactory orgasm. In some actual relationships, sexual conversation may take a backseat to physical pleasure.

Taking directions

Sometimes, it takes another person to help one realize what turns them on. And to have someone directing her on where to touch herself and at what tempo can lead to an explosion of creativity and sexual satisfaction.


After a hard day at work or if a woman rates less than the female physical ideal, sometimes imagining she's someone else entirely gives her a sense of satisfaction she would otherwise not have. Online sex provides such an indulgence.

power of suggestion

When you opt to chat with someone over the Net, the reality is that it could literally be anyone on the other end. What you have to do is suspend your disbelief and accept whatever they tell you.

Is it possible that a man would disguise himself as a woman or vice versa? Absolutely, but that's one of the chances you have to be willing to take if you're going to engage in a sexual conversation with someone you don't know.

Most couples who do hit it off online, however, opt to head to a private chat room and engage in more intimate conversation. As well, many couples that make a connection online choose to keep the relationship "online only," as there's usually a whole other world that each party isn't aware of in reality.

I am a firm believer in chemistry between two people and even if an online couple agrees on everything, from how many kids they want to the morals of premarital sex, the relationship won't work out if they don't have that electric feeling once they're face to face.

keep it online

If you opt to go online and enjoy a secret rendezvous with a woman, brush up on your creative language, enjoy the moment and let your imagination take you wherever you want to go.

Now get yourself online, hook up with a woman who's ready to get nasty and enjoy an evening of fantasy and virtual fornication.